What's an Evangelical?

Can somebody tell me what the heck an Evangelical Christian is? What’s the distinction of an Evangelical Christian from the other denominations, i.e., Methodist, Baptist, A.M.E, Episcopalians, etc.? I was raised Catholic and even went to Catholic school, but I attend a Baptist church these days.

When I hear Mike Huckabee speak and identify himself as an Evangelical, and then I see his supporters and there’s not a brown face among them, I get the sinking suspicion that Evangelical may be code for White conservative Christian. Am I wrong, and can somebody out there give me the heads up as to who these folks are and what sets them apart as Evangelicals?

What's Your Poison?

Every morning, immediately following our daily duet to get the kids out the door and to school on time, Loverman and I make a beeline straight to Dunkin’ Donuts and order our regulars… one large hot tea with lemon for him, and a large tea with milk and extra, extra sugar for me. No chi chi latte for me, no sireee, I need only the pedestrian cup of Black tea to get my head on straight. Without this daily morning hit, I’m doomed with a dull, yet insistent headache for the remainder of the day.

I’ve never been a coffee drinker. I don’t much like the taste and whenever I’m forced to drink a cup of coffee because of a lack of options, I end up feeling like a speed freak after just a few sips. Even as a kid, in addition to not liking the taste, I bought my mother’s admonishments that drinking coffee would stunt my growth and at a mere 5’2”, I didn’t want to take any unnecessary chances of not growing any taller.

I’ll never forget the first time I spent the night at my girl, Kim’s house, we were about 14 years old and I was shocked when one by one, she and her two younger brothers stumbled right for the coffee pot first thing in the morning. I sat at her family’s kitchen table, waiting for her parents to say something, but they didn’t. To this day Kim must consume a strong cup of java to get her day going.

I wish I could step down to only requiring a gentle cup of green tea each morning, but it’s not going to happen any time soon, not with the pace I’m forced to keep these days. For the moment, I guess I’ll assuage my D& D tea addiction with the fact that it’s not costing me a mini fortune everyday, because the cost of those chi chi lattes ain’t cheap.

Flawed Rationale

On Monday I saw a clip on the news where Hillary Clinton explained she expected to lose Louisiana to Barack Obama because of the state’s heavy Black population and she understands why the Black voters of Louisiana voted the way they did.

Sounds reasonable, but what about Obama’s sweep of the following:

Iowa, Alaska, Colorado, Idaho, Kansas, Minnesota, North Dakota, Utah, Nebraska and Maine

Last I checked, there aren't significant numbers of registered Black voters in these states.

See, this is what happens when an otherwise intelligent person gets scared. They start spinning all sorts of flawed and weightless rationales.

Yes We Can!

'nuff said

Route 17

I didn’t grow up in the city. I’m from the ‘burbs and in fact, I now live about 10 minutes from my childhood home. My mother did grow up in the city and when I was a child, I used to visit my grandmother, Nina, who still lived in the city.

I would spend weekends with my grandmother and the two of us would have a grand ‘ole time. She’d fix me silver dollar pancakes and serve me hot chocolate made with milk in a teacup. Nina wasn’t very tall, just shy of 4’11’ and she wore a size 5 shoe. She was the youngest in a family of four girls, who were so fair they often passed for white when they ventured out of their South Philadelphia neighborhood.

My grandmother didn’t drive, but of course that didn’t stop her and we’d venture out on our little adventures which often included shopping at Wannamaker’s or lunching at Horn & Hardarts, but no matter what trouble we were about to get in, to get there we had to hop on the 17 bus. When I was really small, I remember being frightened of all the different passengers and would hold my grandmother’s small hand as tightly as possible. I didn’t like it when we couldn’t sit together and I'd choose to stand by her seat instead of taking one of my own. I don’t know when these unsubstantiated fears subsided, but they eventually did and during these bus rides, I’d make up little narratives of the passengers getting on and off the bus.

When home on college breaks, my grandmother and I would go in town, shop in the Gallery and grab a bite to eat at one of the restaurants in the mall, where we would treat ourselves to an afternoon cocktail. With all my college sophistication, I introduced my grandmom to Banana Banshees and on more than one occasion we headed home on the 17 with a bit of a buzz. Nina would nudge me with her elbow and instruct me to “take a wing,” as we made our way home from the bus stop.

In my late 20s I moved into an apartment, which was in the house that my mother lived in with her parents when she was a little girl. A few years later, Loverman and I lived in a house next door to this very apartment and once again, I became a frequent passenger on the 17.

The 17’s route travels north on 20th Street and south on 19th, and to this day, just seeing the bus triggers the most comforting and happy memories, while reminding me of who I am and where I come from.

More Lessons Learned

If anyone read my blog yesterday or earlier today, you’ll notice I removed my latest post. I removed it because the subject of the post (a high school student) asked me to and although I did not identify her by name, it’s become apparent that my post and its reach made things a bit stressful for her and that was not my intention.

I wrote the post in an attempt to gain perspective on a situation and I solidly stand behind what I wrote. If the subject of the post had been an adult, I probably would have let the post remain. But my experience with this young lady was neither wholly positive, or negative, and as a mother of a young girl, I am particularly interested in the space where teenage girls currently inhabit and I realize that as a teenager she is still growing and learning.

As I told the young girl, her actions have repercussions, and again, I meant her no harm. I, too, have learned an important lesson, that in spite of the limited responses I receive to various posts, people are reading and my reach and scope may be deep and wide. It also reinforces my personal mandate to continue to be as truthful as possible, as well as mindful of how my words may impact others.

How to Raise a Reader

For me, reading is almost as essential as breathing. It hasn’t always been this way, when I was in kindergarten my dyslexia was diagnosed and I became extremely self-conscious when reading in front of my classmates. It wasn’t until 5th grade, when all of the tricks I’d learned from tutors seemed to click and reading became effortless for me. Since then, I’ve been a ferocious reader and books my constant companion.

As I headed into my teen years, I ripped through every Judy Blume I could put my hands on, from The Dog Ate My Homework, to Are You There God, It’s Me Margaret, and Deenie and who could forget Forever? All the girls in my 7th grade class passed this book around with underlined passages detailing the PG-13 sex scenes.

I admire the way folks remember a specific song marking a personal milestone, like… “when I was a dating Mr. X in 1992, so and so was always playing on the radio,” but for me, I’ve marked milestones by what I was reading at the time. For instance, the first care package my mom sent in college included a paperback copy of The Color Purple and the cover was stained because the jar of peanut butter my mom included in the package cracked and leaked in transit. I had just finished reading Coming Through Slaughter by Michael Ondaaatje, on May 22, 1998, the day I met Loverman. Days before I’d finished Chasin’ the Train by J.C. Thomas. Some people need a little cocktail to relax, but for me a stroll through Borders, usually puts my mind at ease.

So, if reading is fundamental to raising intelligent and insightful children, what steps can adults take to engage children in reading? Here are a few we use in our household and I welcome any additional suggestions:

1. Read to your children daily
2. Surround yourself with books
3. Let your children see you read, children mirror their parents behavior
4. Take your kids to the library and let them select age-appropriate books
5. Be flexible, encourage reading in any form, my son loves comic books
6. Talk to your kids about what they’re reading
7. Let your kids know how much you enjoy reading